The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About

. This could have been written by me. Instead of being ogled and comments by men at 13, try 10, when I first started developing. Our whole lives, we give in, we don’t argue back, we put up with it, we smile and suppress how we feel so we don’t antagonise men. Anger is scary, anger is real, anger can hurt us. Instead, we try to please so we won’t have anger directed at us. We laugh off sexual jokes, jibes, innuendos, condascension because otherwise we will be labelled uptight, bitches, etc. It is all pervasive in society how we accept this but, having said that, it does not mean all men are like this. It is about the threat, the knowledge that we can be overpowered if we fight back, how we don’t want to put ourselves in danger. I do all of those things t hat she mentioned, holding my scissors or keys between my fingers when walkig to the car at night after work, having the phone out ready etc. This really touched a nerve with me, please read if you want to have an understanding of what has been my reality. It doesn’t mean that it has to be yours but to have an understanding of what so many women have gone through since they were young

Drifting Through

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There’s this thing that happens whenever I speak about or write about women’s issues. Things like dress codes, rape culture and sexism. I get the comments: Aren’t there more important things to worry about? Is this really that big of a deal? Aren’t you being overly sensitive? Are you sure you’re being rational about this?

Every. Single. Time.

And every single time I get frustrated. Why don’t they get it?

I think I’ve figured out why.

They don’t know.

They don’t know about de-escalation. Minimizing. Quietly acquiescing.

Hell, even though women live it, we are not always aware of it. But we have all done it.

We have all learned, either by instinct or by trial and error, how to minimize a situation that makes us uncomfortable. How to avoid angering a man or endangering ourselves. We have all, on many occasions, ignored an offensive comment. We’ve all…

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